Mammamel
12-07-2007, 09:20 AM
A word to “A Christian lady”
My dear, yes PH has had its issues from the beginning. A lot of people have come and gone from us. Many who left point their fingers at one or two specific former members and say “she caused the damage it was her fault and mel did nothing to stop it.”
Bull feathers. Anyone who left PH did so of their own free will, unless I saw them as an issue. Everyone I remove from PH I pray about first. Some I am free to remove after that, others need PH more than PH needs them.
In any case the only ones who can blame me for their departing are the ones I bounced. Seriously in the 5 years I have had PH, that number is under 30, and most of those were from the beginning, during the cath/bap war that I took over in the midst of.
In that five years I have been accused of many things. Banning for no cause, or because folks disagreed with me. Asking for money and then not using it for the stated purpose (please note, I have not publicly ever asked for money, I did run a collection for a former moderator that was in trouble, and everything I asked THE MOD SQUAD to donate was sent directly to her, it never came to me. No regular members were involved), plagiarism, and many other things. None of which, yes you read that right, NONE of which I have done.
When some one leaves PH, unless they put themselves or some one else puts them in my radar, I move on. I don’t follow them around the net, I don’t watch what circles they move in. Frankly, I barely have time for PH lately. I am tired of hearing whispers; mel does this mel does that.
I am tired of folks who post non negative blogs about PH then let others post seriously erroneous garbage, then taking the blog private if some one tries to respond with the facts, or if I post to ask how they are cuz they don’t answer email anymore. My blog reading list though has shrunk a lot thanks to such things.
Please note, I know PH has many loyal defenders. I have asked them not to reply forcefully to the detractors. I ask them all to remember who they are, they do not need strong language as a defense. So IF some one posts strongly in favor of PH, it is not because I sent them. I am a big girl, fairly well educated and very capable of saying my own piece.
I do not discuss folks who leave PH, I do not bad mouth them or try to hurt them. If I see them post on something I am in charge of, I will respond. This goes for guest comments here. I only delete the ones that are obvious trolls, porn and so on.
PH is a message board for ladies who claim salvation through Christ, nothing more nothing less. We are no more or less perfect than any other human being. No other human being, despite what they may think is more or less perfect than we are. I see no reason to honor folks who expect us to some how be above normal human issues. Yes we work to care for them in the frame work God gives us. That doesn’t mean we will be perfect in doing so.
This has been a hard year for PH. For those who keep reviving these issues in various spots, if you read this, as you seem to, isn’t it time to let it go and realize you don’t want to be here and I won’t change it so you do? Isn’t it time to let it go and move on in your circle, what ever circle that may be?
My dear, yes PH has had its issues from the beginning. A lot of people have come and gone from us. Many who left point their fingers at one or two specific former members and say “she caused the damage it was her fault and mel did nothing to stop it.”
Bull feathers. Anyone who left PH did so of their own free will, unless I saw them as an issue. Everyone I remove from PH I pray about first. Some I am free to remove after that, others need PH more than PH needs them.
In any case the only ones who can blame me for their departing are the ones I bounced. Seriously in the 5 years I have had PH, that number is under 30, and most of those were from the beginning, during the cath/bap war that I took over in the midst of.
In that five years I have been accused of many things. Banning for no cause, or because folks disagreed with me. Asking for money and then not using it for the stated purpose (please note, I have not publicly ever asked for money, I did run a collection for a former moderator that was in trouble, and everything I asked THE MOD SQUAD to donate was sent directly to her, it never came to me. No regular members were involved), plagiarism, and many other things. None of which, yes you read that right, NONE of which I have done.
When some one leaves PH, unless they put themselves or some one else puts them in my radar, I move on. I don’t follow them around the net, I don’t watch what circles they move in. Frankly, I barely have time for PH lately. I am tired of hearing whispers; mel does this mel does that.
I am tired of folks who post non negative blogs about PH then let others post seriously erroneous garbage, then taking the blog private if some one tries to respond with the facts, or if I post to ask how they are cuz they don’t answer email anymore. My blog reading list though has shrunk a lot thanks to such things.
Please note, I know PH has many loyal defenders. I have asked them not to reply forcefully to the detractors. I ask them all to remember who they are, they do not need strong language as a defense. So IF some one posts strongly in favor of PH, it is not because I sent them. I am a big girl, fairly well educated and very capable of saying my own piece.
I do not discuss folks who leave PH, I do not bad mouth them or try to hurt them. If I see them post on something I am in charge of, I will respond. This goes for guest comments here. I only delete the ones that are obvious trolls, porn and so on.
PH is a message board for ladies who claim salvation through Christ, nothing more nothing less. We are no more or less perfect than any other human being. No other human being, despite what they may think is more or less perfect than we are. I see no reason to honor folks who expect us to some how be above normal human issues. Yes we work to care for them in the frame work God gives us. That doesn’t mean we will be perfect in doing so.
This has been a hard year for PH. For those who keep reviving these issues in various spots, if you read this, as you seem to, isn’t it time to let it go and realize you don’t want to be here and I won’t change it so you do? Isn’t it time to let it go and move on in your circle, what ever circle that may be?