A friend of mine cane to me today.

[Mammamel]

She was very upset and hurting. She had done something and she thought the back lash from it would hurt me. She told me all about it, showed me the evidence of what she had done, and asked my forgiveness.

There really is nothing to forgive. She saw a hurting person and reached out to them. She reached out to try and reassure the hurting one that there really was no bad or mean spirited thing being generated by me, or with my knowledge. Having been in the same place herself, she wanted to reassure this person that they need not be concerned that bad things were being said about them on PH. It was not well received.

Why am I blogging on this? Because in the course of the 5 years I have had this site, I have been accused of being mean spirited, and worse. I am usually accused of being someone’s puppet or pawn.

I am no ones puppet or pawn. I require no one to make a defense on my behalf to anyone. My friend knows this, and this was NOT her intent on contacting the hurting person. I appreciate that people like my friend (who is still my friend and all is well on that side far as I know) want to. However when accusations are brought, it is up to ME to answer for myself. I am a capable woman with words. Usually. I never have and I never will send anyone to fight my battles. (Though my Beloved would some times wish to)

In this last instance my friend emailed something to the hurting person. I was also sent everything she sent. Her quiet attempt at peace making was instead treated with malice, and used to try and fracture others from this site. I know accusations have been being tossed. I also realize I have not made answer to them. I do not intend to. People who KNOW me, I mean the ones who talk to me and really pay attention to me and what I do and say, will know what is truth and what is not. I have no need, or desire to toss accusations at anyone. In my opinion ladies do not act that way. I was not raised to be a lady and I can get mean, I mean really cut you down with words mean, should I choose to do so. However I have, since becoming a Christian adult woman worked very hard to remove myself from my talents in that area. I will not answer wrath with wrath, and I will not give anyone more fodder for the rumor mill.

I know there are many who wish I would make reply. Some because they do not like thinking I am just gonna lay down and take it, others because they want to see me tangle myself up in my words and “prove” what I really am. Still others because they wish to see a fight ensue, and one person tossing barbs is not a fight. What I really am, is a human woman, full of mistakes. I am also a Christian woman, who refuses to bandy about things with out proof, to hurt innocent people and insult thinking ones. I know what I have done and what I have not, God knows everything. That is sufficient for me. It will have to suffice for others as well.

Here is the email that was sent:

I have been reading your blog over the past weeks, and I want to let you know that besides the one thread you know about from the staff room, there aren't any others. Nobody, publicly or privately on PH is talking about you to my knowledge. It really seems that you and many of the ladies responding to your blog believe something that isn't true about what is going on behind closed doors at PH. I just wanted to set the record straight.
I know that I don't know you very well, but I was getting to know you, and I do care for you. I have to say that the things you are posting on your blog have me confused. I can see that you have a lot of feelings stirring still about all this, and I'm sorry that it's been a tough road for you. I'm hoping that my telling you this will set your mind at ease, at least a little bit. Blessings to you

This email is posted with the sender’s full knowledge and consent.

[Mamame]

That is so heartbreaking Mel. I have been watching what was going on and wanting to contact her to say basically the same thing but I know through what has been blogged about and from trying to be a sister and come to her directly, I've been shut down (as evidenced in threads here on PH and in PMs too). What has been accused of PH is honestly not what is going on our our part but as we can see, sweet innocent people who are trying to reach out have been bitten. I've seen someone who is very bitter and I pray for healing for her heart and that she would just leave the innocent alone.

The Scripture that has come to me time and time again and I can see that it's been fulfilled is Matthew 7:6. The best thing to do is to shake the dust off of our feet and pray for her.

If anyone has an issue with anyone here, I really wish they would read Matthew 18 and follow that instruction from Jesus Himself. If you have an issue with someone, go to them. Otherwise it's acting like the world, of which we are not.

[riverwalk]

That is so heartbreaking Mel. I have been watching what was going on and wanting to contact her to say basically the same thing but I know through what has been blogged about and from trying to be a sister and come to her directly, I've been shut down (as evidenced in threads here on PH and in PMs too). What has been accused of PH is honestly not what is going on our our part but as we can see, sweet innocent people who are trying to reach out have been bitten. I've seen someone who is very bitter and I pray for healing for her heart and that she would just leave the innocent alone.

The Scripture that has come to me time and time again and I can see that it's been fulfilled is Matthew 7:6. The best thing to do is to shake the dust off of our feet and pray for her.

If anyone has an issue with anyone here, I really wish they would read Matthew 18 and follow that instruction from Jesus Himself. If you have an issue with someone, go to them. Otherwise it's acting like the world, of which we are not.
Your absolutely right Anne also there is forgiveness that is in need here breaks my heart to see any one feel sorrow,unfortunately the Innocent always seem to get involved,and most of the time they don't ask for it as women of God we need to let things go especially if it does not edify, and pray for one another.I truly love PH I know I'm out of the loop in some matters but thats fine with me I will just keep everyone involved in prayer.