Mammamel
03-18-2008, 06:01 PM
I have noticed on a few blogs I read frugality is often a topic, as is child raising, being a homemaker and such things. I like these topics. It irritates me when ladies address these subjects and then get harassed by the feminists.
OK, that name bugs the tar out of me. A feminist sounds like some one who would be for females....for femininity. But in reality, the name stands more for tearing down femininity than building it up.
Thesaurus.com describes "femininity" this way: delicacy (http://thesaurus.reference.com/browse/delicacy), docility (http://thesaurus.reference.com/browse/docility), effeminateness (http://thesaurus.reference.com/browse/effeminateness), feminality (http://thesaurus.reference.com/browse/feminality), femineity (http://thesaurus.reference.com/browse/femineity), feminineness (http://thesaurus.reference.com/browse/feminineness), gentleness (http://thesaurus.reference.com/browse/gentleness), kindness (http://thesaurus.reference.com/browse/kindness), , softness (http://thesaurus.reference.com/browse/softness), womanhood (http://thesaurus.reference.com/browse/womanhood), womanliness (http://thesaurus.reference.com/browse/womanliness) "Feminine" is described as this (Dictionary.com):
adjective1. associated with women and not with men; "feminine intuition" [ant: masculine (http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/masculine)] 2. of grammatical gender [ant: neuter (http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/neuter), masculine (http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/masculine)] 3. befitting or characteristic of a woman especially a mature woman; "womanly virtues of gentleness and compassion"
Now a friend (on her blog) has gotten numerous comments from people who want us to defy these terms. They want women to be “empowered”, to be able to do battle with men and defeat them. For many years this has been drummed into the heads of women. I was also raised by a feminist woman. I loved my mother dearly, but her ideals did not become my ideals. My goals in life, before I met my Savior, were to be a teacher, a writer, wife, mom and true to myself.
What I find very funny is, until I met my Savior, I was not my best at any of those things. A teacher, yes. Not only did I raise my own 2 sons, but I taught preschool, both in schools and in my home. I was a writer. Now I am even a paid published writer. The sticky wicket for me was the "true to myself" part. I thought I had to be what my peers declared, but I was an egg trying to fit in a triangle. I was true to myself in one sense, I did what I believed to be right, and confound the consequences. I do that still today.
What I lacked, though, was a true path. I was taught to always want more, I NEEDED to work to have my self worth validated. I should not trust my husband to meet my needs--he would cheat on me and then leave me. I needed a career even though he felt I needed to be home. I had to trust in MY abilities.
Ladies, all that "I" and "me" and "mine" is garbage. I never knew myself, I never understood me, until I turned it all over to Him from whom all blessings flow. You know what? He doesn’t care if I live in a mansion, or a cottage. He doesn’t care if I have power suits or a simple skirt. He cares that I put Him and others above myself, and that I train my sons to do likewise. That I do what is right, even if it earns me names and costs me friends (it has on both counts). Being a Christian woman is not about hard and fast rules. It isn’t about wanting everyone to get along. God calls us as women to teach our children, run our home, and submit to our husbands and to do so with gladness. Not to think, "well if I had a career", or "if this" or "if that". God calls men to specific jobs, too; however, I am taught in God’s word that MY job is to teach women and children, not men.
I take my cues from the Bible--what it says, I will do. God calls me to have a calm quiet spirit not to be argumentative, or bitter. When people come and make comments or post about things and they are rude, condescending, nasty, or they lie, it speaks volumes about the state of their spirit. Those qualities are not the qualities of the Light, but of the darkness.
God calls us to walk in the spirit of the light, and to avoid the darkness. I choose to follow Him, and let the others decide to follow Him as well, or take the consequences for their actions.
OK, that name bugs the tar out of me. A feminist sounds like some one who would be for females....for femininity. But in reality, the name stands more for tearing down femininity than building it up.
Thesaurus.com describes "femininity" this way: delicacy (http://thesaurus.reference.com/browse/delicacy), docility (http://thesaurus.reference.com/browse/docility), effeminateness (http://thesaurus.reference.com/browse/effeminateness), feminality (http://thesaurus.reference.com/browse/feminality), femineity (http://thesaurus.reference.com/browse/femineity), feminineness (http://thesaurus.reference.com/browse/feminineness), gentleness (http://thesaurus.reference.com/browse/gentleness), kindness (http://thesaurus.reference.com/browse/kindness), , softness (http://thesaurus.reference.com/browse/softness), womanhood (http://thesaurus.reference.com/browse/womanhood), womanliness (http://thesaurus.reference.com/browse/womanliness) "Feminine" is described as this (Dictionary.com):
adjective1. associated with women and not with men; "feminine intuition" [ant: masculine (http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/masculine)] 2. of grammatical gender [ant: neuter (http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/neuter), masculine (http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/masculine)] 3. befitting or characteristic of a woman especially a mature woman; "womanly virtues of gentleness and compassion"
Now a friend (on her blog) has gotten numerous comments from people who want us to defy these terms. They want women to be “empowered”, to be able to do battle with men and defeat them. For many years this has been drummed into the heads of women. I was also raised by a feminist woman. I loved my mother dearly, but her ideals did not become my ideals. My goals in life, before I met my Savior, were to be a teacher, a writer, wife, mom and true to myself.
What I find very funny is, until I met my Savior, I was not my best at any of those things. A teacher, yes. Not only did I raise my own 2 sons, but I taught preschool, both in schools and in my home. I was a writer. Now I am even a paid published writer. The sticky wicket for me was the "true to myself" part. I thought I had to be what my peers declared, but I was an egg trying to fit in a triangle. I was true to myself in one sense, I did what I believed to be right, and confound the consequences. I do that still today.
What I lacked, though, was a true path. I was taught to always want more, I NEEDED to work to have my self worth validated. I should not trust my husband to meet my needs--he would cheat on me and then leave me. I needed a career even though he felt I needed to be home. I had to trust in MY abilities.
Ladies, all that "I" and "me" and "mine" is garbage. I never knew myself, I never understood me, until I turned it all over to Him from whom all blessings flow. You know what? He doesn’t care if I live in a mansion, or a cottage. He doesn’t care if I have power suits or a simple skirt. He cares that I put Him and others above myself, and that I train my sons to do likewise. That I do what is right, even if it earns me names and costs me friends (it has on both counts). Being a Christian woman is not about hard and fast rules. It isn’t about wanting everyone to get along. God calls us as women to teach our children, run our home, and submit to our husbands and to do so with gladness. Not to think, "well if I had a career", or "if this" or "if that". God calls men to specific jobs, too; however, I am taught in God’s word that MY job is to teach women and children, not men.
I take my cues from the Bible--what it says, I will do. God calls me to have a calm quiet spirit not to be argumentative, or bitter. When people come and make comments or post about things and they are rude, condescending, nasty, or they lie, it speaks volumes about the state of their spirit. Those qualities are not the qualities of the Light, but of the darkness.
God calls us to walk in the spirit of the light, and to avoid the darkness. I choose to follow Him, and let the others decide to follow Him as well, or take the consequences for their actions.