Mammamel
04-10-2008, 10:03 PM
On some of the blogs I enjoy reading I have noticed yet again posts disappearing. Why? Is it because they are bad posts? Do they attack others? Are the issues they are discussing hot button issues? Why do they feel they can not speak their own minds on their own blogs? These are just some of the questions that flit through my mind when I see yet another PHesque blog altered. You know, blogs about home schooling, Bible study, living on DH’s salary, frugality, putting hubby ahead of all others, basic PH type things.
Now on the last blog I saw that did this, no the post was not bad, it had humor, and general information. It did point to another blog (that I will not point to, it is not PHesque). Because something on that blog stuck in my friends craw, as it did mine. No my friend did not attack the other blogger she simply stated her side of a coin; she did so very well I thought. No the issue was not a hot issue. It wasn’t on home school, Bible, or anything else with key emotion producing words in it. I will get to the issue in a second.
My friend feels she can not speak her mind, because like many others, if she posts a technique for home school or training, she gets threats of a cps call. Look, I worked with cps as my guide book (I actually had a copy of the cps rules) for over 20 years. I read her entire blog from first post to last (before she removed her thoughts) NOTHING, yes you read that right, NOTHING in it was cps worthy, and further, could have warranted the reporter a ticket for a nuisance call. I find for many home schoolers, especially those with preschool and younger siblings, this is the usual threat of choice and it makes me sick! Children are not pawns to be used in some higher than God nitwit’s stupid mind games. (Can you tell this is MY big issue???)
What “hot” issue spurred the last bout of venom? Should home makers, you know wives and moms, use lists to keep on track, since our grand mothers and great grandmothers did not. No, I am not joking. For some it seems using a list, binder or other on track tool, is an indication of not having good homemaker instincts. Now I myself have tried the binder… its too much hassle. I tried flylady, but my life is more fly-by-the-seat-of-your-pants. My theory is, God tells the older women to teach the younger, specifically how to handle these things.
I did not have a Titus 2 growing up. Many of the women of my generation did not. So the instinct isn’t as strong in us as it should be. I found one for a brief time when the boys were little (under 5) but that only lasted a couple of months. I always knew in the back of my mind WHAT to do, just was never convinced I could do it. Until some one shows me where God says we can not use lists, or binders or some other such device, I say if it works for you, go with it. If it makes you more able to glorify God, then it’s working! For the record, our fore mothers did use lists; there are poems about the daily work that were taught (wash on Monday and so on).
My main point is we have no business threatening or harassing folks just because their lifestyle is not a carbon copy of ours. How other mothers handle their homes is not our business. Writing about it on a blog does NOT mean we have carte blanc to interfere. It is tacky beyond belief to assume such nonsense.
I am so saddened that this young woman, who is reaching out with what she has learned, no longer feels she can contribute and help others because of some persons who decide they have the right to act like brats, and then the gall to claim they are Christians. Before you spew venom at a person, read the list of fruits of the Spirit. Remember those? Paul says by these fruits we will know who truly belongs to the Father, and who does not. Threats, intimidation, general mayhem, are NOT on that list, cursing, being malicious, also not on that list. One rule my mother did teach me while she was busy being a single mom, if you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything.
Now on the last blog I saw that did this, no the post was not bad, it had humor, and general information. It did point to another blog (that I will not point to, it is not PHesque). Because something on that blog stuck in my friends craw, as it did mine. No my friend did not attack the other blogger she simply stated her side of a coin; she did so very well I thought. No the issue was not a hot issue. It wasn’t on home school, Bible, or anything else with key emotion producing words in it. I will get to the issue in a second.
My friend feels she can not speak her mind, because like many others, if she posts a technique for home school or training, she gets threats of a cps call. Look, I worked with cps as my guide book (I actually had a copy of the cps rules) for over 20 years. I read her entire blog from first post to last (before she removed her thoughts) NOTHING, yes you read that right, NOTHING in it was cps worthy, and further, could have warranted the reporter a ticket for a nuisance call. I find for many home schoolers, especially those with preschool and younger siblings, this is the usual threat of choice and it makes me sick! Children are not pawns to be used in some higher than God nitwit’s stupid mind games. (Can you tell this is MY big issue???)
What “hot” issue spurred the last bout of venom? Should home makers, you know wives and moms, use lists to keep on track, since our grand mothers and great grandmothers did not. No, I am not joking. For some it seems using a list, binder or other on track tool, is an indication of not having good homemaker instincts. Now I myself have tried the binder… its too much hassle. I tried flylady, but my life is more fly-by-the-seat-of-your-pants. My theory is, God tells the older women to teach the younger, specifically how to handle these things.
I did not have a Titus 2 growing up. Many of the women of my generation did not. So the instinct isn’t as strong in us as it should be. I found one for a brief time when the boys were little (under 5) but that only lasted a couple of months. I always knew in the back of my mind WHAT to do, just was never convinced I could do it. Until some one shows me where God says we can not use lists, or binders or some other such device, I say if it works for you, go with it. If it makes you more able to glorify God, then it’s working! For the record, our fore mothers did use lists; there are poems about the daily work that were taught (wash on Monday and so on).
My main point is we have no business threatening or harassing folks just because their lifestyle is not a carbon copy of ours. How other mothers handle their homes is not our business. Writing about it on a blog does NOT mean we have carte blanc to interfere. It is tacky beyond belief to assume such nonsense.
I am so saddened that this young woman, who is reaching out with what she has learned, no longer feels she can contribute and help others because of some persons who decide they have the right to act like brats, and then the gall to claim they are Christians. Before you spew venom at a person, read the list of fruits of the Spirit. Remember those? Paul says by these fruits we will know who truly belongs to the Father, and who does not. Threats, intimidation, general mayhem, are NOT on that list, cursing, being malicious, also not on that list. One rule my mother did teach me while she was busy being a single mom, if you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything.